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West Seattle Herald Friday, April 8, 2011 3 ]! ( By Georgie Bright Kunkel Not much is written about a second chance at love in one's so-called senior years. After all, peo- ple with children, grandchildren and maybe even great grandchildren aren't expected to enter the dating scene in their advanced years. But everyone needs affection and caring. Remember my article about Senior Dating? In that article I mentioned that I was single again but not dating. I said I didn't think that any man could keep up with me. Interestingly enough someone who reads my col- unto thought to himself, "I think I could keep up." And we are now spending time together getting to know each other. But "getting to know you" as the song says takes some doing in one's elder years. What a long his- tory one builds up over years of marrying, taking care of a spouse, then losing a spouse and meeting up with a companion who has a completely differ- ent history. My close friends kept reminding me that I would never find another partner just like the one I spent 62 and a half years with. Of course that is true. You cannot repeat the past. But one can find a whole new pattern of living with new experiences that are warm and exciting. Marrying at an advanced age may bring up issues of the children's inheritance. I once joked on the comedy stage about not having a date and saying, "Even if I did have a date I would never marry again. So if any of my children are in the audience you know that your inheritance is safe." Some people feel they marry for life and even if a spouse dies, the living partner never seeks to bond again. After my husbfind died a friend once asked me if I ever talked to my dying husband about my dat- ing after his death. I just laughed and said" If you knew how independent I am you wouldn't ask that question." People who believe they will be reunited with a spouse in heaven may have difficulty if they have had more than one partner. Can't you just visual- ize dying and having to choose which spouse you would prefer to be reunited with in the hereafter? I didn't have that problem but loneliness after being widowed is often a concern. It can be tempered by continuing with an active life including family contacts, making new friends as older friends die, or having a pet cat or dog. Add to this the closeness of a loving human companion and life can be rich and rewarding. But there are compromises to be made when one is interacting with another human being with a different past than you yourself have experienced. "You mean you like your eggs over and well done?" or "You don't care for Earl Grey tea?" These differences can be easily overlooked if the electricity is exciting in a dating relationship. With more independence for women in our time there can be more choices other than marriage only. Older women don't have to worry about having children so that is not an issue. But it does mean that each partner needs to respect the other's life- style that was built before starting the new relation- ship. Yes, whenever two people come together for friendship, companionship and love, there is always give and take so that each gains without giving up one's core values. An exciting journey into compan- ionship is a lesson in caring about another human being who has entered one's life. If I figure out how it is all done I may write a How To book about it. But I'm not quite ready for that yet. Georgie Bright Kunkel is a freelance writer to be reached at gnkunkel@com- cast.net or 206-935-8663. Thanks for the wonderful feedback I have received from my readers. i %iiiiiiiiiiiliiiiiiiiiiii!iii!!!!!!i!iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii i: CONTINUED FROM PAGE 2 Chief Sealth High School Crone of Puget Sound ............. Class of 1971 Plans 40th Reunion West Seattle/South End Aug. 5 - 7, 2011. Discussion Group Contact the reunion committee at: First and third Tuesday of month, cshs71_reunion@hotmail.com 1 p.m. This is a social group where women of a Certain Age can dis- West Seattle Garden Tour cuss issues related to aging with Volunteers Needed Power, Passion and Purpose. Open Volunteers needed to plan the 17th to new members. Call Jo, 206-244-4289for meeting Annual WS Garden Tour. The time andplace. WSGT Committee meets on the 2nd Wednesday of the month at 6:30 p.m. at an appointed mem- ber's home for a potluck. Not necessary to be a Master Gar- dener volunteer opportunities are available. information at westseattlegarden- tour.corn Grief Share Grace Church 10323 28th Ave. S.W. 206-932-7459. Tuesdays, 6:30-8:30 p.m. For those who have lost a loved one. - See ON THE GO, page 11 Patrick Robinson Don Malo, owner and Brad Truesdell, General Manager inspect a newpaintjob on an accident repair in the company's newly upgraded paint booth. Now using a water based paint system, Malo ' s is the first in the area to install such a system. in area By Patrick Robinson Malo's Auto Body in White Cen- ter has installed a new earth-friend- ly, water-based automotive paint- ing system that is not only more environmentally-friendly, but also produces better results. General Manager Brad Truesdell said, "It eliminates solvents that we would use to adhere paint. Tradi- tionally you would have solvents and hardeners in the base coat, whereas now we've eliminated roughly over half the solvents in the system now" In fact, 70% of all car manufac- turers now use water-based painting systems to some degree. "We are now using what would be considered O.E.M. paint" said Truesdell, "It matches the style and quality of the paint as it was when it was originally manufactured. You get the closest to match finish you can possibly get." The product Malo uses is made by BASF and you can learn more about it at www.basfrefinish.com. The process is also faster and pro- duces better results. 'q'he metallics lay down smoother. You don't have a chemical reaction between clear coat and base coat" said TruesdeU. The company is also green in other ways. Since they handle auto- motive accident repairs they often recycle bumpers, now commonly made of hard plastics, to either be repaired or ground to a powder for returned to the manufacturer for re- use. They also routinely recycle oil, anti-freeze, leftover paint and radia- tor fluids and they dispose of other chemicals in responsible ways. Owner Don Malo said he has spent more than $20,000 to install the system. It includes new com- pressors, new ducted fans (aimed with lasers for exact targeting) and new base coat paints. "Health-wise it benefits the employees, benefits the environment. It's just a win-win for everybody" Patrick Robinson can be reached at ~r@robinsonnews. 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